Bore off, trolls. Disabled people are worthy partners.
"How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves."
This observation by Paulo Coelho is as true now as it was when he first made it - and we think it goes a long way to explaining the reaction, this month, to photographs of a bride and groom in America.
Hannah and Shane Burcaw got married in an intimate ceremony in Minneapolis and shared photos on their Instagram accounts. Because Shane has spinal muscular atrophy and Hannah isn't visibly disabled, some members of the public felt entitled to make unpleasant and ableist comments, including implying that Hannah was marrying Shane for money.
One woman said, "some of us women will do anything and everything for money", which really leads us to wonder how much gold-digging she's been doing lately if this is where her mind takes her mouth. Hopefully her partner or any future partners read her comments, so they can steer clear.
In an Instagram caption, Hannah wrote that "worrying about these people’s opinions is a waste of time, and as time has gone on, it’s become so much easier to genuinely have no internal reaction to comments like these".
Nonetheless, it's unfair that both Hannah and Shane should experience this shit from people, particularly in response to an occasion that was about love. Thankfully, there were loads of people congratulating the couple, balancing out the negative reactions from the cynical sad sacks!
We'd like to add our congratulations and we're pleased to see the newlyweds rising above the trolls. It is true that people project their own issues and attitudes onto others, but what Hannah and Shane have demonstrated so beautifully is that you don't have to accept those projections.
As a wise apparel brand once printed on a t-shirt (wink), "ableism will never be on trend".